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[Duds3]

I always ask myself, is it really hard to have a happy M with my W. The answer I think is no. Its still hard for me to believe there life was as bad as they say it was/is. Funny you talk about controlling, I have evaluated myself on this aspect and have come to find out that was never an issue from my side or hers. That was the best thing about our relationship and made us work at such a high level. In my case, my W just wants to be by herself is the only thing I can think of. She wants to be able to come and go as she pleases with no guilt and no concern for anyone else. She wants to do what she wants to do when she wants to do it. Its as simple as that. To that regard, that's not how life works in the grand scheme of things. That's fantasy land. I wish I could be 32 years old and rehash my younger years with no regard for "real life." Which leads me to my next point, how long can she continue on this path?

The fact that your W and mine have moved so fast in the direction of the big D is the scary part. Its like they have made up their mind with no turning back. For Gods sake my W has removed my last name from everything. That was a big slap in the face to be honest. Its like she is embarrassed to be associated in any which way.