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Thanks Duds. I dont think they're really happy ..nor do i believe that a D is what anyone really wants. But obviously they want to be in a happy M and DB is focusing on yourself so they hopefully will figure out that they want to rebuild the relationship with you to the point of a happy M. In my case, I tended to revert back to my old ways ...just being controlling ...thinking that I knew what was best for W - from her job to who her friends should be to when she should be home, etc. I would keep telling her I would change and things would be good for a while (actually sometimes just for a couple days) and then back to my old ways. Funny thing is just as i finally really "got it", after seeing a pschiatrist and joining a couple support groups to focus on my unhealthy behaviour, my W filed for D. So now I'm just focusing on me - i know I will be a better person for it and if W comes back great. If not, I'm just grateful my W led me to find my true self. I am happy that she is still living here. When she initially filed I'm sure she would have liked to move out but her lawyer's filing also froze all assets and only allows same bills to be paid so her hands are tied on moving out. She said I've been more pleasant to be around so I don't know if she minds being here now during the D process.