Last year this behavior began bothering me so I withdrew from her. Fast forward to 9/2013 after she returned from a work trip, I didn't welcome her home with open arms
This pattern of behavior no doubt contributed to her love for you withering. At this point it sounds like your W is a full-blown WAS. Read DR and start working on the exercises. Make a list of things you did wrong in the marriage and a list of what 180's you are going to do. Your W will NEVER come back to the old marriage, it's dead and gone. Through DB'ing you have to change YOU and then perhaps your W will be attracted back to start working on a new R.
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However, fast forward to now and the W has become emotionally disconnected, not to just me but our D as well. We have had many conversations about this
Stop having convo's about it. You're just putting pressure on her at a time that she wants NO pressure.
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I have read Sandi's tips but they seem to apply to those who are on the verge of D, we have only discussed separation.
Incorrect, Sandi's rules apply to all WAS's/ LBS's. The rules are all about removing pressure from the WAS so that they don't feel inclined to rush into S or D. After reading your posts I do feel quite strongly that you need Sandi's rules desperately. Read DR too, the advice here won't make sense until you read the book. These forums are to support MWD's concepts, if you don't know the concepts the forums won't help you much.
