Well I texted WAW about being flexible with the time sharing schedule^^^^ and she replied back with "thanks for sharing that" I guess I'll wait for her to suggest another option.
Good. And I think Spartan touched on a good point. See your kids as often as you can...for you and for them. This is a difficult time for all of you...but it's also an opportunity to pull together and become closer. I don't think any of us have looked back and thought, "I wish I'd have spent less time with my kids."
Originally Posted By: OneDay
On a side note I google controlling behaviors...........to say the least it was SCARY!
How/Why are so many of us this way. Can IC counselors help with this? Are they any books or podcasts that could help me?
Yeah, that suck$. I was very resistant in accepting this about myself. Mach slapped me around quite a few times before I truly saw it.
It's difficult, but the first step for me was understanding why I was that way. That really isn't all that hard for most of us. A short little dance thru your history with an outsiders view and you'll see it quick enough. Changing it....that comes next, and that is hard, at least initially. You mind is already programmed a certain way due to years of training it.....so retraining is required. And it takes a lot of effort.
When I was going thru this, I read an awful lot...books as well as internet. I read books on marriage, divorce, codependence, learning to trust, etc. Pieces of each helped me. And IC could certainly help, and while I didn't personally look for podcasts, I'd assume there's some good ones out there too. Keep posting here...start digging into material you are interested in, get an IC. Use whatever works for you.
