Last night W brought up divorce, just saying her lawyer filed standard response and that next step is financial disclosures. She told me things have been nice for this past ONE week. The past two weeks I have been focusing on my 180s, detaching and giving her "space" which is what she wants right now. I let her know that we would never have the same relationship again -only a better one - if we could make it work because we both have learned from our mistakes. I said it breaks my heart knowing our daughter will only remember a time when their mom and dad were together as a distant memory and our son will never remember that time. I could see in her eyes that she felt the same way but W said she fears i would go back to my old ways. I am going to continue doing what I have been doing these past couple weeks ...focus on me, 180s, not bring up relationship issues/divorce at all, let her initiate conversation and listen and give her space, etc. Seems that she is happier ...last night's conversation broke the tension that has been "in the air" since she filed for D.
Me: 47 Her: 45 M 18 years T 22 years S-6 D-9 Separate rooms 1/5/14 Wife filed for divorce 2/5/14
