Just caught up on your thread. Your H seems very unsure and I agree with the others. Stay away from R talk. I've struggled with that over the months and it only causes them to defend their stance of R not working and things end up worse. I think you are doing great so early in this process. Keep reading and watching others and working on yourself.

I come here to vent and then I feel like I can continue that PMA. Physical separation is tough. I've never done this before. There is so much uncertainty. It's so nice to have people here to lean on for advice. Have you tried a DB coach? That really helped me early on.

Me:33 H:35
M: 12 years
D-15 S-6
Bomb: 6-2013
OW: 11/2013
Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair
Kids and I moved back in 12/2013
H moved out 2/2014