I'm having a hard time walking the line between acting like I normally would with my H and acting cold or aloof. I've the friendly neighbor approach referred to on the forum a few times, but I don't think I've been able to master it. Of course, maybe that's just because I'm not used to treating my H like he isn't my H anymore. This is particularly difficult when he is acting like the H I've known for most of the last 14 years. Is this something I'll just get better at with time?
I've also been thinking about one of the things my H has said multiple times. He doesn't see D as final. He thinks that it's likely that we'll end up together again. BUT, he thinks we first have to start over as just friends and really work on building our friendship and then see what happens. It's hard for me to reconcile that with the fact the he repeatedly tells me that I'm his best friend, but I get the impression that the WAS isn't usually a rational being. He has said that he doesn't see our problems as solvable without D. When I asked why we would get D and put our D7 through that if he thought there was a chance of reconciliation, he said we didn't actually need to tell her that we were D. Huh??
