melissa

[25yearsmlc]

Wonka has a good idea and I've wondered for a bit now, why he has not volunteered to drive himself...

anyhow, I'm not one to say "insist" or "Stand firm" on this. I just don't agree that this is worth it, b/c when it comes to "my child's welfare" I don't weigh a one day field trip the same as her medical care or school choice...but that's me.

I DO believe his statement about 50/50 should be taken at face value or you're just mind reading too much.

But think about it. Think his threat/promise out...

There are only 2 ways that would work. 1) he realizes that child care costs and the hassle factor of having them that much, wakes him up to the reality that YOU will need to have them more than he does;

OR

2) he really steps up to the plate and becomes a better, more loving and selfless present, father...I mean, geez, would that be so terrible?

So don't worry about that NOW...okay? Take it one hour/day/week at a time. And keep on referring to the lawyers for the legal questions.

Your h is a decent lawyer, judging by how he writes to YOU...so don't engage with him on such emotional issues, b/c then it's a contest and not a cooperation. And if it's a legal issue, it's not for you two to work out at this point.

(KeepGoing is an amazing woman. Always take in what she says, & know it comes from a brilliant mind and a huge heart...I often ask her for advice for those reasons).

Hang in there, b/c this too, shall pass.