Also, don't you think your feelings for your W, Scorp, have been magnified by the fact that she left? Most people want what they can't have way more than when they actually had it. It might just be psychological right now. Give it time to settle and maybe your feelings will be more realistic about her. But, you can still love her. You don't have to be together to do that. Love her all you want. But, protect your kids and your relationship with them first.