Wonka, I am open to anything - I loved the book 'Expecting Adam' which is certainly about angels.
The strange thing is that I am actually very sorry for my xh - to be so angry and miserable must be horrible. Yes, it is hurtful and painful to deal with, from someone I shared the greater part of my life, and have children with. And at times it frightens me because I never dealt with this sort of behaviour before.
I have lived the greater part of my life with people who are kind and thoughtful. Lucky me, and I have been fortunate. No defences against this stuff though.
Fairness, reason and the rest are all out of the window.