Need help saving my family - part 5

[Barrybran]

I've had five pages to catch up on this (bloody time difference) so this is just a quick post. When everyone says to stand up for yourself not everyone means to hammer her with lawyers. Yes, you may head down that path and I agree that you should be prepared. What everyone is referring to is that you ARE a doormat to her. You have said in the past five pages that you have your balls intact but I'm afraid that you may need to check yourself because they're sitting on your wife's mantle right now.

I mentioned the cheeseless tunnels earlier. Being nice to and considerate of her hasn't worked. Now you need to try a different approach. Some have suggested lawyers, some have suggested manning up and telling her what you want. My email suggestion was in line with your thoughts of avoiding the lawyers, determining what she wants, letting her know what you want and cutting the nonsense as well. Hopefully, she'll respond favourably and let you know what YOU need to do to get what YOU want. If she doesn't, then you have three choices: sit back and keep writing emails (the "status quo"), tell her what will be happening (won't work but hey, it's a different strategy and one she's using) or lawyer up. The others weren't having a dig when they said your actions indicated you don't want your kids. You need to look at things through your wife's eyes here and that is EXACTLY what she's thinking. She thinks you don't care. You need to ACT instead of SPEAK.

Anyway, the email is sent and hopefully she'll get back to you shortly. Be prepared to ACT from now on.