Regarding your H's latest text about lawyers and custody arrangements, you'd better have a firm line here and be consistent. I'd say, "H, please have your lawyer communicate with mine on this matter. Thanks. M"
As for the camping trip, how about this:
"H, it is apparent that we have divergent views of the camping trip for D. D can go away on the trip on one condition: you drive D. I need to stay here and focus on S."
Swat the tennis ball right back at H's side of the court HARD and let him figure this one out since he jumped ship. This is what a divorce will look like to him. Instead of eating cotton candy, he'll be trying to eat some JawBreakers!
