In the meantime, if you're W doesn't agree to talk 50/50, where do you plan to live? Are you still going to move to the town where she is regardless of the custody results? Or is there a scenario where you'd stay where you are?
So far, it sounds like you've at least suggested your actions are somewhat dependent on your W's. I think you need to start putting your life plans in place without that dependency. What do you want to do?
Are you paying your W monthly based on your attorney's suggestion, or are you simply doing what your W tells you here? I'd definitely check with your attorney before sending her any more money.
