Need help saving my family - part 5

[Scorp7]

This was exactly true for me as a mom and why, when I fought, I fought so hard. If she loves her kids (and it seems she does), she will take any significant limitation of her time with them as an incredible threat, one that cannot really be faced and so must be defeated. This knowledge is important in your strategy and dealings with her. That does not mean that the strategy in fighting has to be a negative one, perhaps reassuring her that she will always be their primary caregiver might cause her to relax a bit in the negotiations. Nevertheless, this knowledge is important, and likely key.

PS This is my first time trying to use the quote button. I hope it works.

Great point! I think that is exactly what is behind most of this sitch. She didn't want to risk ever losing the kids so everything she has done was to protect her time with them. It's going to be a tricky one.

In time, I hope she will see that I am not at all trying to take our kids away from her. She hopefully will see that she needs to put the needs of our kids ahead of her own wishes. They need both of us equally. Sometimes they need her more, other times they may need me more, but in the end it's about both parents being with our kids as close to equally as possible.

PS, the quote button worked great