I can't believe that because I haven't "lawyered up" and gone after my W that is being interpreted as I don't want my kids???? Wow! I could NOT simply go and pull my kids back from my W because of what she did when she left. If I did I would have ended up in jail. My W did her homework when she left and made sure it would be very difficult for me to simply just pull the kids back. If I knew I could have brought them home and not faced serious consequences I would have done it.
Scorp...
You are totally missing what we are saying to you.
It has NOTHING to do with you going after your Wife.
Nobody has said that you don't want your kids. The only thing that we have to go by is what you type here.
Your ACTIONS have said that you don't want your kids. The rest are just empty words. The rest are just excuses of why you couldn't, that somebody else is keeping you from them....
Einstein defined insanity as doing the same things over and over again, while EXPECTING different results.
Isn't that what has been happening ???
I have never once told you to go after your Wife....have I ??
I have , however, asked you repeated times if there was ANY way that you could go after your kids legally, and you have dodged every one of those questions with an excuse of why you couldn't...
18 days in 4 months ???
Dude...
Regardless of what you want, or don't want. No matter how hard you try, and want the best for everyone involved, the marriage that you USED to know is dead and gone.
Everything that you do from this day forward, will reflect the next relationship in your life.
And before you get all pissy here....
Your next relationship could very well be with your current spouse. Just keep in mind, that anything that could possibly happen, will be an entirely NEW relationship, that doesn't apply the rules and laws of this past relationship....
Your wife has an agenda, that consists entirely about doing the exact opposite of what you feel, or want...
Just the way it is for now....
She has HAD a plan for what appears, quite a while now. You have only recently come to gain this knowledge. And the outcome of that, is that she will have the upper hand until you change that dynamic....
And unfortunately, that dynamic includes your young children. And make no mistake, that she is more than willing to use them as "pawns" against you....
The longer that this goes on, the better the chances of her taking them from you entirely...
THAT is what we don't want to see happen....
She is angry
She is entitled
She has the power, and control in this relationship ( if you ask her, she would say 'finally')
And she is NOT afraid to use any of that against you....
Crap, she already DID the day that she left....
Now, with that said, if you really feel that sending another e-mail is going to change this, then I would recommend sending it.
I just want you to know where that line in the sand is, so that if it doesn't go well, you are prepared to fight.
What is your time limit on a response ??
What will a response that you can live with entail ???
