The problem is, I have been trying to be supportive and loving for 5 months now and while it has led to some improvement things have stalled and my W does now seem willing to budge off of only allowing me access to our kids every second weekend.
In talking with the lawyers I have they did tell me that it's very rare for one parent to be given sole custody and that I almost certainly will get more time with our kids than I currently have. BTW, custody and time are two separate issues up here. That is why I think I have to go ahead with the lawyer, unless by some miracle my W changes her mind and wants to actually negotiate without lawyers.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS