I'm often wondering if this whole no persuing thing is the right way to go. In my relationship with my W I never really persued her, she kinda persued me and she was the one who did most of the relationship work. Not to say I didn't plan things for us to do from time to time and tried to keep things romantic occasionally. But I could have done a whole lot more. I would do a whole lot more in the future.
I don't know how serious it is between her and OM, I don't believe they are planning to move in together anytime soon or anything. I know she's getting the D papers written up this weekend and I'm going along with it just so I can get a good deal for myself and my kids.
But I'm still having doubts that I did all I could have. I'm having doubts I did all that she needed from me at this point. If I ask her out this Friday to have some fun as friends is that really a bad thing? It would be a total 180 from what she would expect from me. If I ask confidently without desperation and if she rejects me I just react that it's no big deal, maybe another time. If she says yes I can keep things relaxed and as fun as possible.
I sometimes get the sense from her that she doesn't feel loved. That she's alone and I wasn't the husband I should have been. Right now she could use a friend and I could fill that role. I don't know, maybe I am desperate right now. It's just hard to believe that only working on myself is the way to go. I mean I'm going to work on myself anyway, but shouldn't I show her that I want to work on our relationship as well?
