I'm in, wife's out

[trc2009]

Day 25.

Had a wonderful night w/ the kiddos. W was a little quiet last night and this morning but I'll chalk that up to lack of sleep on her part. Either way, we haven't touched R or M at all since Sunday and conversation has been pretty effortless for the most part.

I'm still kind of taken back that she asked me about work yesterday. A month ago I'd want to discuss something about work and she'd say "well that's a very good opportunity for YOU" and leave it at that. And it was an important question because it involves my income (which is the only thing supporting our family at the moment). I always involved her in my career decisions and she's been an excellent counsellor during our entire marriage. And it seemed like she just stopped caring about it and that it didn't involve her anymore. So when she started asking questions about it yesterday out of the blue I was kind of shocked. But I brought her up to speed and was very glad she asked because I do value her opinion above all others in this regard.

I have my IC session tomorrow. I won't see W for a couple days after so I'll kind of "brief" her on how it went and leave it at that. It's important that I keep her in the loop even though I'm going for myself. She did the same for me during her IC sessions and over time she's shared more and more with me (some good, some bad in regards to our M).

I have felt more comfortable with things since Sunday. It's at least let me not try to worry about what she's thinking/doing. As 25 said, I clearly have a bad habit of doing that. Hopefully that continues because it certainly helps me feel more relaxed and comfortable about the sitch.