melissa

[melissag]

Thanks, guys. I seem to be able to roll my eyes and not TIP when my H rants about things (yes, I will come here and bitch about them bc I am so horrified and shocked at what an ass my H has become or always was, whichever it is).

But when it affects me somehow, other than emotionally, then it gets much harder and I get very frustrated. Like the whole H suddenly demanding 50/50 custody thing. I can't just roll me eyes at that. It affects my life and my kids' lives.

I also get extremely frustrated when I need to be able to communicate with my H. I have given up on any kind of communication re: our R, my feelings, or the legal stuff. When he tries, I more or less ignore him because I know it's futile and I have learned not to get roped into a convo with him.

But when we do need to communicate . . . I find myself very frustrated, because I feel like attempting to communicate with him is, at best, a waste of my time. Then I get overwhelmed thinking about how it is going to be this way for the rest of my f-ing life, and there is no getting away from him ever.

KG . . . I feel that maybe I need to post more often about things other than venting about my H. Then you would see that I actually do have plenty of openness and I do look for common ground all the time. The things I post about on here are the difficult ones that I need help with.