W said its over - Said I can't change her mind

[tbm4evr]

I'm not a vet, you and i registered here essentially on the same day, we are in similar shoes. W asked me to move into the guest room 1/5/14 and W filed for D on 2/5/14. I signed the papers so she didn't have to serve me and I continue to pay the bills. As all assets and debt will be split 50-50 so I figure it isn't worth the fight. Your text do go against DB because a lot of pursuing talk. I haven't been doing that. The last text may be WAW talk or it may not. I would focus on you ...if you change to where she thinks life will be better with you than without you, she will come back. I got back into some old hobbies and started some new ones. Got new clothes, glasses and haircut - doing the 180. I recognized that i had some unhealthy behavioral issues - control, neediness, etc and joined a support group. I don't bring up any discussion about our relationship with my W. I let her do all the talking these days and validate, empathize and respond to her questions only when asked. We do have minor children so where I reside I still have 5 months before D is final. Patience and time is your friend. If you change and your W likes what she sees in you, maybe she'll agree to put the D on hold to work on the relationship. Keep a PMA. Best if luck to you.