I don't think I have posted since the incident where H threatened my contact with step kids. Things have calmed down in the last week.
I feel like s and I have gotten into a good routine. He still screams for dad sometimes but not as much. Things he only let h do (like clipping his nails) he is letting me do without much fuss) We have also developed some new bedtime rituals.
Things are nice and calm when h is out of the house and s and I just do our thing and hang out with the dogs. (I have actually fallen in love with this puppy he brought home. )
At the same time h has been at home a tiny bit more. No real conversation but civil. The big sticking point is finances. We can't talk about money without getting emotional. I suggested he get an app to check bank account so it isnt all me tracking things. He did and has been keeping an eye on spending. . We will see.
The other change is that s and I have checked out a unitarian fellowship in our neighborhood. I was discussing with my therapist how I am really missing having a community to belong to. I had been interested in checking them out for years but h never wanted to go. I figure now I can do what I want. The congregation was so welcoming to s. I think it will be a good place for us.
That was a pretty big deal for me as I am very nervous about goung new places by myself. I was very social before I met my h. Now I need to learn how to be open to meeting new people again. Not remotely thinking about a relationship just new friends.
Me 44 H 42 M 10 T 12 (at time of BD) Ss 20 16 S11 (special needs)
BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom 10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied S and I move out 3/15
