Apologies first, as I am not up on your entire sitch...
I think I would send something along the lines of....
Wife,
I just wanted you to know that I have received and read your email.
What we are discussing is a life changing event, and I feel as if I need more than 24 hours to decide "yes" or "no".
And while we have discussed most of the terms that you are demanding, and this is mostly black and white, I would like to read your thoughts once again, laid out as you see them playing out in real life.
I am not against you, I am just trying to do what is best for me.
Thanks
Groov
She is showing signs of serious buttons that you seem to push with her. And every time that you push one, she jumps onto her moral soapbox and passes judgment onto you.
Groov, she is trying to bully you here into something that you did not want.
I would suspect that somewhere deep inside of her, she knows that IF you were to pursue this, what she thinks will happen, probably won't happen.
Do NOT jump into something that isn't right for you and your situation. Try to NOT push the child button, or her Mother button, that seems to really put her on her soapbox...
What do YOU need to happen ???
Come up with your plan, which doesn't depend on her plan....
Life won't always be the bowl of cherries that she thinks that it will be...
It's not up to you to give her that though.
Every time that she hits you with a load of BS, hit her back with a dose of reality...
