Ok first its first, I dont know if what she says its real or not... But whatever you did, its not gonna change the situation. Now, have you read Sandi rules? More important, are you using them? If not, its time to start using them. And again the word of the day... ACCEPTANCE, this is where she is right now and it doesnt matter if you like it or not, its not your job to judge her, there is no right or wrong, just accept that she want this at this point.
You didnt do mistakes, because there are no mistakes in life only great spiritual oportunities, take them and you will grow,
She wants a response by tomorrow right? And she is giving you choices, dont focus in defending yourself, she is not judging you...she is just stating her opinion, you might like it or not but at the end its her opinion and considering the fact that she is a human being...her opinion at least for her its completely valid.
Here is where you can see how feelings play and the fear comes up turning into anger...
After all that she said on her email you choose only the path of anger... She told you at the beginning: we can work out all of this smoothly and in a friendly way...
What about you accepting her choice and give her that part that you swear to her once: in hapiness and sadness, in good and bad ( real meaning its I will accept you and love you always no matter what)
There is where your real you is, the one with unconditional love, the one who cares about yourself, because if this ends in lawyers and court, emotionally that might hurt you more and your first mission its always take care of yourself and love yourself.
This will be my email:
Dear bla bla bla
Thank you for your email. I appreciate your willingness to work out all this in a smoothly way and thats the way I choose to do it.
I will seat down and spend time thinking about what are my choices in this matters that will benefit and make things the less painful possible for the kids and myself.
Thank you for giving me that time and I will keep updating you when in doubts of whats best for all of us.
And leave it like that, no need to reinforce her with the idea that you are a good or bad father, or husband or whatever... Once you accept yourself the way you are you will be able to see all this a little more clear.
You are fine and you are right where you need to be, God its doing for you what you cant do for yourself so just relax, open your heart and let love guide you...
Its easy to hate or not hate...and its easy to love when things are smooth, but when things are rolling in a different direction in a different way we want them to roll, then there , right there is where you can show your real, trully and unconditional love
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
