H moving out tomorrow

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Ok TL, here's another gem I think T2d sent to me back in Nov. Again, I have forgotten how to incorporate the quote box, but here it is anyway (I love the last line):

"Something my IC said to me about W...that she pushed me away, hard, because she knew I cared for her deeply, and she didn't want to drag me down into her crap as much as possible, because she knew I would go there with her trying to help.

So, in an odd way, it was an act of love.

She had to go places I couldn't follow, would be too hurtful to follow, and she cared about me enough to push me away and tell me to go home.

Ever see those movies where the kid has to tell the loyal dog to go home, to NOT follow? Hard for both parties, but confusing as hell for the dog..."

I so felt like that dog... but that was before I found out about the OW and at a time when I thought it would take him a while to get involved with someone because, as he said,he was too F'd up for any relationship. But within two months he miraculously got 'better' I guess. Amazing . . .

I don't know if your H ever said anything along those lines, but if he has it might work for you like it did for me for a while.

Do go to church alone - you'll probably find it's not as scary as you think.

And yes, a therapist is a very useful tool as long as you are comfortable with them and you feel they 'get' you. Fortunately my therapist was OUR MC, so the MC knows my H very well. We both saw the MC for individual counseling too. Funny, the counselor said he did not see it coming either!!! Kiddingly offered to give me a refund!:)Like these boards, I don't know what I would do without him.

Wait, you filed only a month ago and the D will be final this month??? Geez, that's fast!

BTW, I second CW's comment about you . . and yes, you have done all you could with grace and dignity - take that to the bank!

We will both get stronger and get through this as much better women. Like you, I have no desire to get involved with anyone in the near future. Don't trust myself and I want to be healed and healthy so I can find someone who's healed and healthy as well.

I may not be in contact for a couple days - have company coming in and they'll be staying in the room with the computer, so I won't be able to sneak in at night.

But I'll be back . .

Goodnight my friend...