A couple more things, she doesnt have to face nothing, and you havent been nice or bad, you just being you acting out of fear, thats all. Accept it just like that, now you dont have to be mean or become a demon... Be loving with your kids and with yourself and you will be able to see things in a different way, you will be able to accept her totally and love her in a much different way no matter if she stays or she leaves.
Follow sandi rules, do that 180 for you and only you and start tomorrow, you have the right to be happy joyous and free, no matter what. Fight for that freedom and you will have whatever you want in your life wink now focus on you, thats the biggest gift life its giving you

When the student its ready, the teacher will appear...
Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me."
Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.