Need help saving my family - part 5

[Scorp7]

Great post ye21, you made some great points that I needed to hear.

I've started to realize that my W hasn't had to face losing me. I'm so available to her that she likely thinks she could have me back any time she wanted. As long as she feels that way she's not going to face what losing our M really will be like. Also, being so nice to her regardless of how she's treated me has given her a green light to treat me however she feels like. Not cool.

I have just begun to understand what detaching is but I have a ways to go. I took off my ring this last weekend and I don't plan on putting it back on. I went out with some friends this past weekend, even got up on stage and played a song with a band for the first time in 6 months, so that was great. I'm starting to make plans for my kids and myself and not thinking about my W in those plans at all. I'm getting there but it's going to take more time.