Same Song, Different Verse

[StilH2O]

Still haven't heard any advice on whether reading DB would be helpful since I've already read DR?

A little bit of a surprise last night.... We have a routine of visiting my parents and eating dinner with them on Sunday evenings. This has been pretty much standard since the kids were really young. We usually just grab pizza or some kind of takeout but occasionally my mom will make something simple instead.

While neither my parents (nor her parents) know all the specific details, they all know the just of what led up to the BD, including the A, and how things have gone from there. Needless to say, W has been very uncomfortable being around my parents. The only times she has been to their house since they found out about the BD and related issues, I have had to specifically ask her to join us, and even then she has declined more often than not. So for the last couple weeks I have stopped asking.

Anyway, on Sunday, D17 and I were sitting in my parents' living room having a good chat with them when W texted D17 to say that she would be joining us and would stop to pick up dinner if we would let her know what we were hungry for. I know I shouldn't read too much into this but she has always been really close with my parents (they treat her like she was their own daughter and still love her very much) so I was glad that she felt comfortable enough to join us without being coerced to do so.

D17 had season-opening softball game tonight. A little sad really as she is a senior and this was her last "first game of the season." The game was out of town and both W and I attended, but drove separately. She said she was just going to meet me there because she had a doctor's appointment this afternoon and was afraid she would be late for the game. Conversation with her at the game was pleasant and we talked about a lot of different things, but no relationship talk.

It bugs me a little that she has never said if there has been any contact with OM since the text exchange from several weeks ago. I have been curious if there has been any contact and, if there was, if she had told him that there could be no more contact from this point forward, but I have refrained from asking her about it. I'm not sure she would tell me if there had been contact, even if I asked, especially if there had been contact and she had not instituted NC with him. At some point I will probably ask about it, as I just can't see any way to move forward if there is still any kind of contact between them, but it would probably just make her mad for me to even ask, whether or not there has been contact, so right now I'm trying not to spend a lot of time thinking about that.