2nd time around part 2

[NotAgainPlease]

H has decided we will only have contact for the kids. We have been arguing lately.
All this is since he contact with OW again. Has been pretty nasty lately. We haven't been arguing about OW.One of the things we have been is his response time to text back to call back. Not that I am expecting it right away, but sometimes when I need something about school I need an answer soon. I am doing our taxes and I need a copy of his W2. He texted me in the am and said he'd send soon. 5 hours later nothing. I called and he said he has been too busy. All I ask is to let me know. This may sound a little petty but he told me that sometimes he does it on purpose because he doesn't like me! Are we 5??

When I do talk to him or text I am really having a hard time being nice.ugh

During a conversation he said OW is not his girl friend just a friend. I said hmm how is that when she is the love of your life and you've never loved anyone so much?
He said I don't love anyone right now......

I am going to IC tomorrow. I have been doing a lot of reading. I think we are both verbal abusers and codependent along with lots of other stuff lol.. We will see.
I can only worry about me but it would be nice if he would go so if/when we divorce we can be civil co-parents.

So, needless to say no/low contact wont be hard since H wont talk to me. He even sent my daughter a text from the car saying he was here. H usually comes in and talks.

H seems very disconnected and think it is permanent. Doing my reading research I am not sure were would ever work. But I do want to figure it out if there ever is a new relationship.