Need help saving my family - part 5

[Scorp7]

I am trying to still follow the DB concepts, one is to validate what the WAS is feeling, even if I don't agree. She wants money to buy a house for herself and our kids. I think that's a great idea actually. Living with her parents is not good for our kids.

Also, one of my 180's was to give up control of the sitch. I had been a big time controller before so learning to let go is a big thing I think.

The added info (buying boots) is in there so we can try to co-parent. Money is an issue for both of us right now so there's no point in us buying two of everything. I agree though, keeping it direct and to the point is a better way to go.

The response I'm asking for is in regard to the 50/50 custody. I'm telling my W that I'm coming on Friday (or Thursday if I can arrange to spend the afternoon with my D4).

I could very well be wrong with my approach. I agree about the idea of "stop going down cheese less tunnels" so perhaps I could be less friendly. If and when the lawyer has to come in to the sitch I had thought it would still be best to keep a "good cop - bad cop" deal where I would still be friendly and leave the cold, nasty responses to come from my lawyer.