I still think your email is to nice. I know that you are hopeful that if you ask the right way your W will see the errors of her ways. For months I thought that I could do the same thing and that if I figured out the perfect thing to say my H would wake up, apologize and return home. It did not work and only made things worse. If you want to get her attention, you are going to need to not do the exact same thing you have been doing this entire time.
You continue to add on unnecsssary information that distracts from what you want. Why are you writing about the boots? Just go buy some and bring them with you. If your W objects then you will have a pair of boots at your place. It is not like you are buying a car and need your W's approval.
If you include unnecessary info, your W will ignore the important things you said and focus on this unnecessary stuff.
Also, you ask for a response by the end of the week which makes no sense if you plan of seeing the kids on Friday. You will need to confirm plans prior to the end of the week.
You ask your W her thoughts on 50/50 custody. Don't you already know her thoughts. To me it is pretty clear that her answer is no.
The vets will probably have better advice but I would be to the point and very clear that you intend to seek 50/50 custody and would prefer to reach an agreement amicably but that you are not going to simply concede to her demands. Your email makes it sound like you are a child asking for permission from a parent to do something.
