I'm in, wife's out

[trc2009]

Also, these "discussions" are tough. Neither of us like to have them (who does?). They aren't light and fluffy for sure but she even indicated yesterday that they probably need to happen every few weeks while we're living apart just to gauge where we both stand with everything.

I honestly can't tell you 100% for sure how she "views" them (negative or positive). She did comment that if we were under the same roof again that they need to become less frequent or even stop. Which I can agree with because then things become "unnatural." Almost as if "checking in" on where we stand is almost like forcing it. We've been together long enough to know if things are getting better or worse without asking for reassurances constantly.

Obviously we still need to be able to communicate. Fortunately, the important stuff like the kids, money, etc. are pretty seemless conversations for us. Probably the best aspect of our marriage.

I suppose if we do get to a point where we're under the same roof and working toward peicing, then a MC could be beneficial for us. But we're a long way from that. We tried that on 2/7 and it was a disaster because she had no desire to be there. If I had a nickel for each time a bystander (family member/friend) has said "you guys should really try marriage counselling," I could go on a nice vacation right now. I really wish I had read DR before going to that because I would have known it probably wasn't a good idea at that time.