Looking at things a little differently... How long would it take for you to get your affairs in order and move to where your wife is? I'm not saying "go for it", just throwing up a hypothetical.

Also, what do you WANT to do with the house? You keep saying what you're prepared to do but other than 50/50 with the kids you never say what you actually want.

Me: 31, W: 29
T: 4 M: 2
Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3)
Separated, still living together: Nov 2013
Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014
W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014