They will know I did everything, yes, without a doubt. I already have a lawyer ready to go with filing for D and serving my W with papers. I want to make sure I am absolutely certain there is no other option before I go ahead with D.
I think that you may be looking at this wrong...
I didn't ask if they will know, I asked if you thought that they would "buy" that excuse...
And lets call it what it is...
Every day that you don't see them, or talk to them, is an excuse...
There is one reason after another WHY you don't see them.
Are you okay with that ???
Drew is correct about the procedure...
The court system will scare the bejeezus out of you IF you let it.
It's not a 1...2...and it's done.
Judges hate having to rule on these things because it makes them the moral compass in the situations...
However, they will if both parties have become unreasonable...
What I am saying, is...
You are looking at this as an entire package. It isn't all encompassing. The custody side has no bearing on the outcome of the marriage. You can go to juvenile court and file for JUST custody without involving the dissolution of the marriage...
Your Lawyer is YOUR attack Dog, and he/she only attacks on YOUR command. And should ONLY be attacking the things that YOU want to attack.
You want to attack custody ??
Then you tell your lawyer to attack that, and that only...
Drop all of the other BS that has you scared right now.
Your spouse isn't going to do anything to jeopardize HER chance at custody now. She has you right where she NEEDS you to be.
Why would she do anything different ???
Because YOU asked nicer this time ???
F that buddy....
And yes, the court looks back on the previous 6 month history when it comes to custody. So as to not disrupt the children's schedule too much.
The BIG money that you speak of, is when the Lawyers take it upon them self to dictate the ebb and flow of the ENTIRE process. Stop that from happening, and things will change.
