Need help saving my family - part 4

[Drew]

I want to make sure I am absolutely certain there is no other option before I go ahead with D.

Filing is just the first step of many, it doesn't necessarily lead to a prolonged custody battle that will cost "$50-100K."

My W has moved some when it comes to the kids. I started off having zero access then she changed to every second weekend and I've had the kids home with my for a week for the past two months. It's not where it needs to be but it's progress.

If I file for D, serve her with papers etc then any progress that had been made will be lost.

I'd be curious to hear what progress you think you've made. She's throwing you crumbs and you're eating them up. She won't even discuss any kind of equal parenting plan with you.

A suggestion - next time you consult with a lawyer, have them walk you through the entire divorce process. It'll go somehting like this:

You file, I believe for full custody if I remember correctly.
She'll respond, likely for full custody for her.
Lawyers will set a court appearance.
Judge will order you to meditation.
Mediator will strongly urge you to compromise.
Mediator will AGAIN strongly urge you to compromise.
Only then will you go to trial.

And the process can be stopped at any point.