I'm in, wife's out

[trc2009]

Thank you 25! Definitely food for thought. I've read Jon's sitch about coming back from a separation too early and obviously I don't want that to happen. If it happens too early and both of us aren't ready, then it could be disasterous.

I will agree that I'm not a very patient person. I think I've definitely come a long way in that regard though. In January, I was freaking terrible at patience! Coming here slowed me down a little bit. Yesterday when she was close to asking me about coming home, I about jumped at the opportunity. But I asked her the question of whether she was ready. Which made her pause and in return, made me pause as well. I made it VERY clear that I didn't want her to do anything she didn't feel ready for.

The good news is that I went home for lunch and we actually were having a what seemed like a "normal" conversation. She was actually asking questions about what was going on at work with me (which she would do all the time throughout our marriage but stopped when we decided to separate).

I know the job hunt is wearing on her. She has some prospects but nothing solid. I validated her getting a job like CRAZY yesterday. I found out that if we remain married that she needs to be able to feel like she's contributing and not counting on me to completely support her. Again, I validated that like crazy. That is VERY important to her and I fully support her in whatever she decides to do.