Oh, do Be mindful of how you see the "Discussions" vis a vis her. You may want to check in with your w sometimes, about how she views the discussion. As in, did she think you were fighting? OR "talking" or was it 'heated but respectful", etc. How did she feel you did, validating her opinions? Does she have any specific requests of you IN these talks, about how you can better meet her needs? Listening more, re-capping what she says so you KNOW you actually understand her point of view, No more mind reading, etc??
Just an idea
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