So I guess it was a positive step yesterday. It at least indicated to me that she does have a desire to try but just isn't sure if she's ready to do it yet.
Of course it's a positive. (!!) Secondly, I just finished saying that rushing back into the home will probably cost you the marriage, b/c You are NOT ready to show her consistent change. You said you got defensive yesterday but managed not to lose it. Hey, the first time you blow it, could be the last chance she ever gives you.
Get some TOOLS FIRST, before you move back in. Otherwise, you move in at your peril.
I didn't act too eager to try and stay and I did my very best to let her think about it. When she said she wanted me to go to a couple of IC sessions first, I was very positive about it. (Inside, I was very excited about it......which makes being positive easier).
This was very good^^. You have a chance to turn this around. Stay positive. I remember reading something MWD said in DR. I'm paraphrasing but it went something like this. "Imagine a time when you had to be as patient as you've ever been in your life. Now, multiply that times 1 million. That's how patient you'll have to be during this process."
Which means that your wife will need to extend HER patience, and you will have to begin learn some, right?
Don't revise your martial history or how you got here, or you'll end up back here with a lot fewer positives. No offense but patience is not something you have shown here at all, imo. Just saying, you may need to read your threads again, objectively, if you believe you are a patient man.
LEARN from this, and be grateful to get another chance if you do. Start by Not seeing yourself as a victim in this.
Make sense?
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