own buz 23:mediation to reconcilliation, PATIENCE!

[MrBond]

You're mixing up what I said again.

"The advice between bond and KP/Portia seem to conflict."

No we DO NOT conflict.

"Bond suggests: He is making progress (baby steps) and that I need to be patient, be available to just listen/validate, etc. Not manipulating/calculating. Not controlling."

That is NOT what I suggested. I said that he seems to be making baby steps to figuring things out about himself. I didn't not mean they were baby steps towards reconciliation. I also DID NOT say you need to be available. I said that if he opens up to talk to you, then just validate and listen. And I think we've ALL told you not to be manipulating/calculating and controlling.

""THIS IS NOT ABOUT HIM" "THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU"
are two conflicting messages. Bond continually states the latter."

What are you talking about? I DID NOT say the opposite. You keep interpreting it wrong. That statement is NOT in conflict. This whole situation is not about you. It's about HIS journey, but you keep making it about you and you keep thinking he's blowing things off to hurt you on purpose. He's just doing what he FEELS is right.

When I say that this is not about him, it refers to the fact that you concentrate every one of YOUR movements to what HE does. What YOU do is up to YOU.

You're getting the messages mixed up and I would appreciate it if you wouldn't keep referring to what "I" said based on your interpretation. We're all saying the same thing, but you haven't figured it out yet. Nor do you have to. Just concentrate on yourself and STOP ASKING QUESTIONS.