I still have alot of difficulties talking to WAW. I try and start off a conversation calmly, with an open mind, a PMA. I make a conscious effort to avoid controlling. But the conversations seem to go astray.
Nothing I say or do comes out right. I could have the best intention, speak with a soft voice, use eye contact, truly listen but somehow the conversation gets turned around. I try validating, but there also comes a point I must defend myself for False or "Hypothetical Accusation" she will throw at me.
This is tough stuff, and you aren't going to be great at it out of the shoot. I was such a controller....that resonates with me. Even when I thought I wasn't, I still was....it is really super hard to let go. But it is also freeing.
If things keep getting turned around, maybe focus simply on listening and validating....let's not worry about the "defending" for a while. Validating doesn't mean agreeing....and that may have to be enough for now.
