Need help saving my family - part 4

[Scorp7]

I did speak with my pastor's wife last week (she has been a great support since this started) and her advice was to still support my W, sell the house etc, not to stand in my W's way for what she's wanting for the future etc. Her opinion was that if I file for D and start a battle over custody of our kids that for sure the relationship with my W will have been so soured that we could not co-parent at all. Besides that, we would be spending money on lawyers that should go to our kids future.

My W had been slowly softening with regard to me having more time with our kids. It went from zero time to every second weekend and sharing holidays. Over time, that trend could continue if I keep things as friendly as possible.

Again, from a DB standpoint, what are my best options here? Am a crazy to think that given enough time (a year or two) that my W and I could still R? I'd prayed all along that we could at least start out as friends and then go from there but it's pretty tough to be friends and co-parents if lawyers are involved.