Could it be many of the MLCs are being misdiagnosed and have multiple issues? A lot of people go through difficult times and have mental illness and like in my case emotional and physical abusive behaviors that are the crux of the sitch. In those cases we need to move on since DB may not be appropriate. I've been reading the threads, books and DB coaching, etc. and well I see some repeats of postings that are similar, which means to me there are multiple sitches for these people and the best thing to do is go on in our lives even though we still love the spouse (ex or whatever they've become). The bottom line is that we need to know truly what we're dealing with and then respond appropriately, because we have to love ourselves first and then give the loved one to God. We can't control other people. They can run from themselves and all other people, places and things, but nobody can run from God!
