own buz 23:mediation to reconcilliation, PATIENCE!

[makingmagic]

thanks for jumping in Ken.

"THIS IS NOT ABOUT HIM" "THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU"

are two conflicting messages. Bond continually states the latter.

When I make it about HIM, about understanding HIS MLC, and that its HIS path. I get compassionate and a lot more patient and understanding.

Then, when I make it about ME, I really feel strong. That I have self-respect, and act on my new value system.

^^^^^ THIS IS Confusing!!

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Ken ~ when you state " when I do something..its the right thing to do", not because I am trying to see his outcome.. I will try that! Getting my name on the business, I have been TRYING FOR YEARS!! Job, motivated me & I am trying to stay on path. This happens every Sunday night/Monday morning.

Reviewing my role in the breakdown ~ he would say our relationship was great, just near the end sucked with all the fighting. That and my pit-bull ways on a point. (I have been working on that). I have also been working on becoming a better listener, as this is who I aspire to be. "work in progress".

I am not sure I understand but even here, you only address them in passing, its still always about him. and then its 'i've said it in a post so now its fixed' - thats not how it works. you lack consistency.

and thats why you're struggling now."..... can you go into details? Thanks, Magic