I'm just catching up on your situation. It sounds like your kids are lucky to have such a wonderful mom. Sadly, I find familiarity in some things about your h. It is extremely difficult to watch someone who was so formerly devoted to their family, act like a self absorbed a$$. But, the reality is that it is all about them. My h used to be very close to his parents speaking to them 4 or5 times a week. He no longer speaks to them. He used to tell funny stories about the kids and take tons of pics. Now, he only posts a pic of the kids because deep down under all of the turmoil and pain, he desperately wants to be seen as a good dad.
Wonka is correct in that they have no coping skills. Zero. Zilch. That's why they live an entirely different life-because it feels pressure free. My h never asks or texts about the kids and thinks I am the worst human being on the planet. However, not so terrible that I can't take care of them 99% of the time:)
I hate that your older child is struggling. Kids are incredibly perceptive but it doesn't lessen the pain of the situation. You are doing a fantastic job. Leave him alone. It's your h's journey. I am fiercely independent, but that doesn't mean I don't miss having someone else watch them while I run to Target. We just go as a group now:)
Live your life. Enjoy your kids. I know it hurts, but you are so lucky to have each other. You are strong. Take care.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
