own buz 23:mediation to reconcilliation, PATIENCE!

[KenF]

you worry about 'the path back to you' and his confusion and his manipulation and his excuses.


THIS IS NOT ABOUT HIM!

you have to accept that. and truly understand it.

this is only about you and your actions and your issues and your responsibilities.

if you do something, do it because its the right thing to do. Not because you're trying to get him to respond or to see or do.

manipulation is when your action is done with the intention of getting him to respond in a specific way.

if you linger with the intention of getting him to ask you out, then you're manipulating.

your statement of getting your name on the business was tied directly to his non-movement - thats why its manipulation. but instead it should be because your name should be on the business. and the reason you should do it now is because of YOUR non-movement over the past years.

if you want to 'keep the path easy' then fix YOUR issues. the easiest path for him would be to see you take responsibility for your role in the breakdown of the relationship and fix those issues.

but even here, you only address them in passing, its still always about him. and then its 'i've said it in a post so now its fixed' - thats not how it works. you lack consistency.

and thats why you're struggling now.