I'm in, wife's out

[trc2009]

25, thank you for the time you spent responding. Let me address some of the things you mentioned before I give an update.

-I agree that I'm letting her kind of rule over me. I've had a habit of worrying too much about what she's thinking/doing. I've done a better job of not projecting that onto her over the last several weeks, but I still think about it more than I should.

-Her not saying she hasn't decided she wants a D is a very good sign. Agree 100%. I've read so many stories on here about spouses being pretty certain that divorce is what they want. My w hasn't indicated that to me at all. She has just more or less said it's a possibility.

-I'll address this a little more in my update post but ending the separation came up over the weekend and her safety issues are ultimately the issue at hand here. Like you said, me reverting to my old ways.

-Oh yes, I would definitely say I'm confused. I personally think I'm overthinking a lot of things. I would agree that my W is probably confused as well. But she acts like she is so great and that she's as happy as she's been in years. THAT has me terribly confused.

-I think I've actually done a very good job of not challenging her choices the last several weeks. I haven't pushed her, asked for clarity, reassurance, or anything like that. I've simply given her space. And we've actually gotten along very well over the period of the last few weeks. I think a lot of that is due to the fact that I haven't been pressuring her or pursuing her.

-I'm going to a new IC on Wednesday. An actual PHD and not a counsellor. She came highly recommended. W knows about it.