melissa

[melissag]

The more I think about this, the more it disturbs me.

With every communication, I just see what a narcissist my H is that much more. In his tone, the way he treats me, the way he tries to manipulate me the way he doesn't even respond to what I said - obviously not listening to me at all. The fact that he thinks that all children should be raised the way he was so they can turn out great like him. (Let's not forget he hates his mother, resents his father, and um, he may have just a few issues that keep him from being the great guy he thinks he is.)

Should I ask him whether he wants to get D to introduce adversity into his children's lives?

I am really not sure on how to respond. I am still trying to figure out how to deal with someone like him. I know I am not going to just go along with what he wants to keep the peace. Not in this situation. So the options are, simply say "thank you for your thoughts, I have decided to keep her home," or suggest, in a way that feeds his ego, that he drive. Then, when he says no, he can't (because he always says no to these things, yet finds time to go to the gym and out to lunch and screw around on match.com, twitter and Facebook all day), I will respond with, "thank you, I am keeping her home."

I hate the way he corners me in every conversation like this, so that there is no way to answer him other than his way.