" I would have asked you for a beer, but it was late"
Hmmmm....let me think where have I heard that from your H before.
He has figured out what you need to hear to keep you there. Smart man.
All he has to say is I would have I could have I meant to I will and you stick around of the off chance he will produce ( he won't.. Oh he may throw you a bone, but nothing big)
I suggest you see a counsellor. You are stuck here, not willing to actually change, or work on your self esteem or love for yourself, both of which are lacking.
When you see the worth in you, you will be okay. Don't reply that you do, you don't..otherwise everything you say or do wouldn't be based on what H might say or do as a result.
You also need a GAL, some friends and a life. That is the first thing you are supposed to do and you really didn't. Try switching your obsession from H to needlepoint or hiking or running. You need to think about something else.
Sounds harsh? It is....but you haven't moved at all
