We do not have children, we have been trying for a baby from 2011 till end of 2012. This was hard for my W, towards the end of 2012 my W became depressed. Start of 2013 she joined a band and almost gave up on the idea of a family. It was as if the band had replaced this desire... I saw some "red flags" with this but supported her. The band became very successful towards the middle of 2013. At this point they started touring and having a lot of late nights, this started to cause real tension between us... I could see she is becoming to close with the OM but didn't realize it was that serious. She seems to be sticking to her commitment to break contact with the OM, but is still saying that she wants a D. What is making this more difficult is that she would have to leave the band as well, being in a band has been a dream of hers. We live in Africa, so time differences and call cost will make the telephone couching difficult, are there any other way of doing this? e.g Skype? My big question is still whether I should move back home? This might cause her move out.. This is very difficult for me, hard to get my mind on work etc..
