Thanks for the responses: he seems to stop just short of what is deemed frivolous, and I am not sure I want him to know how much it is bothering me by filing harassment charges, even if I can make a good case.

I think he does want my attention, but am not sure why - the man walked out without a second look! I try not to let it worry me but last round of allegations of serious fraud are pretty disturbing. I am currently battling with dermatitis, stress related, and I don't like it!

I wonder what we do wrong in their eyes, except continue to breathe, and as you say, be happy.

No-one gains much, it seems to me, from MLC. We grow and learn, but at a pretty high price. I did not expect to enter the latter part of my life with a furious and vengeful ex-husband, after a long and happy marriage. If he had simply walked away, I think eventually I would have dealt with it. It is the continual anger that is hard to deal with.