Lol I'm sure that is why she wagon the mood..she just said she needs to go to grocery store but tired after last night ...i said rest and I'll go pick up a few things. Is that wrong should I not have offered?
Me: 47 Her: 45 M 18 years T 22 years S-6 D-9 Separate rooms 1/5/14 Wife filed for divorce 2/5/14
Hummm, just don't make a big deal out of it. I do, however, caution you not to rescue her from natural consequences to her actions. (If she has to rest due to her being out drinking.) She didn't seem too concerned she had no memory after drinking. You may not be able to do much about that right now, but on the other hand, don't swing the other way by comforting/helping so that she can continue without taking responsibility.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
W texted me while I was out running errands and asked me to pick up some additional items at the grocery store. Said she was making chicken wings for dinner and if I wanted to join her for some wings and a movie after kids down. I said sure. She also had laundry going during our dinner/movie so I helped out folding clothes. Afterwards I helped with the dishes and then said thanks for the pleasant weekend and goodnight ...she said goodnight too and off to bed I went. No relationship talk about marriage, D or anything so I guess I consider that a good thing. She has a meeting tomorrow night from 6 to 9 so I said don't worry about the kids, I'll get them dinner and to bed. She said she would still pick them up from school. So today communication was good and we are "getting along". I don't know what to make of all this.
Me: 47 Her: 45 M 18 years T 22 years S-6 D-9 Separate rooms 1/5/14 Wife filed for divorce 2/5/14
W texted me while I was out running errands and asked me to pick up some additional items at the grocery store. Said she was making chicken wings for dinner and if I wanted to join her for some wings and a movie after kids down. I said sure. She also had laundry going during our dinner/movie so I helped out folding clothes. Afterwards I helped with the dishes and then said thanks for the pleasant weekend and goodnight ...she said goodnight too and off to bed I went. No relationship talk about marriage, D or anything so I guess I consider that a good thing. She has a meeting tomorrow night from 6 to 9 so I said don't worry about the kids, I'll get them dinner and to bed. She said she would still pick them up from school. So today communication was good and we are "getting along". I don't know what to make of all this.
Don't read anything into it. She felt no pressure from you and apparently no conflict anywhere, so she felt relaxed.
Good job at not bringing up R talk.
You did right to help in your share of the house chores. Where a lot of LBH's mess up is when they try to do it all.
There will be good days and bad days. There will be days that you don't know what to call. Just keep moving forward and don't fall into ways that show desperation.
Men are their most attractive when women see them being confident and strong (even if she's just the renter).
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Thanks Sandi ...i didnt read anything into it because i just havent been able to "read her" lately anyway. i did what needed to be done today around the house, nothing more, and made nothing of it. W is at a meeting tonight till 9 ...lately she has gone to the bar and/or met friends afterwards and come home late ...will be interesting tonight to see whether she comes home afterwards or goes out again ...that will be telling.
Me: 47 Her: 45 M 18 years T 22 years S-6 D-9 Separate rooms 1/5/14 Wife filed for divorce 2/5/14
Well its 11 and when she left she said meeting over at 9. I'm tempted to text her and just ask if she's ok but I'm not. I'm just going to let it go and head to bed now. Glad I didn't have my hopes up.
Me: 47 Her: 45 M 18 years T 22 years S-6 D-9 Separate rooms 1/5/14 Wife filed for divorce 2/5/14
This forum is like a journal for me but I get input from others which is so nice -thank you. W arrived home at midnight ..As I expected she stopped at the local tavern otw home. She said she had emails/texts to get out following the meeting and wanted to do it there. Of course she could have done that from home but chose not to. In the past we would have argued when she got home hours after her meeting ended. Tonight she walked in as I was getting ready to call it a night. She was chatty about her meeting and conversation she had with people at the bar so I just listened, we had pleasant conversation for an hour or so and then I said goodnight. No talk again about our relationship, M and D. Last week she mentioned that her lawyer was drafting a response to my response to her "divorce complaint". I had asked to see it before they filed it so that we could try to agree to it instead of going back and forth between the lawyers. She said ok but made no mention of it again tonight. I don't know if she will end up allowing me to look at it because her lawyer will likely advise her otherwise. Dont know if i should I bring the issue up sometime this week if she doesn't or just let it go?
Me: 47 Her: 45 M 18 years T 22 years S-6 D-9 Separate rooms 1/5/14 Wife filed for divorce 2/5/14
